Bedtime Story

When you are little we pay attention to whether you laugh or cry. If you cry we feed you until you start to vomit a little, or we change your diapers, or make sure you’re warm, or tell the clown to go bother someone else. If you laugh, everything’s A-okay.

Then you learn to talk, and it’s interesting neologisms for a while, and stories about your past lives (“I drowned right over there”) and shared dreams (“Tiger eat papa”) and, generally, fun conversation.

Then, all of a sudden, you’re a fully formed human with interests of your own and it gets hard. This is around the age of nine or ten. You are who you are, nothing’s going to change for the rest of your life, nothing big. You’re what, eleven now, you know what I mean. People think you’re a little kid, but there’s a lot less difference between you and a 49 year old than there is between you and a one year old.

You’re basically your adult self, right here, in a little kid’s pyjamas.

My dad drifted out of our lives at about that age. Once we had formed. I used to think it was because of some character flaw of his, but I no longer think so. Now, instead, I think, basically, dude, it’s really hard to pay attention to what the hell you’re talking about. You talk so fast, and it’s making sense now, and you really have to pay attention.

Little kids, you can get away with saying, whatever.

Now, though.

And it keeps getting harder. You drift further and further away the older you get. You get other interests, I get less heroic, the conversations grow awkward.

I could never get a conversation started with my dad, not really, at the end. We both tried. We lacked the time, mostly, I guess.

So don’t be freaked out if you notice me paying more attention to you.

Also, who would’ve thought my spirit guide would be a hobo spider?

It’s like, you know, Don Juan going, Here, Mig, forget that peyote, I got someone here I’d like you to meet.

A bite to the Achilles tendon.

Even after the swelling went down, and the blister healed, the immediate symptoms lasted two weeks: disorientation, clumsiness, blurred vision, headaches, thicker beard growth, libido way up, and weird ideas.

Like, ideas for houses: tree houses. Or, a hill with a shack on the top, only the entire hill is also a huge house underneath. Benefits of this: you can have goats and sheep on the outside of your house, man.

Or: RVs will soon be cheap used. Nearly free, as gasoline prices climb. Buy them cheap, stack them one atop the other, as high as you need: alternative skyscrapers.

So not a pengine (“Slide!”) and not a weasel.

MW described my spirit guide in a comment here earlier. I quote:

    I can see it in my mind’s eye & it’s looking just like an old Max Fleischer cartoon

5 responses to “Bedtime Story

  1. k

    did you redecorate? something… the right side!

    my son is just 12. and i am just 48. i’m on your page, if you get my drifting.

  2. joeri

    I’ll be having the same trouble when I’ll be a 43 year old dude. Not looking forward to it somehow…

  3. Wow. By the time I’m 49, my son will be… *calculates*… 30. So he’ll be even older than I am now! Imagine how that’s going to be… when he’s 10, I’ll be 29. I’m sure the difference between 10 and 29 is even less than the difference between 10 and 49. If Guitar Hero and RockBand are still cool then, I’ll probably be the cool mom. ;)

    I quite like the sound of your hobo spider spirit guide… the first time I have ever found a spider in any way appealing, I might add, so it’s a weird experience for me.

    I’ve always envisioned my own spirit guide as some sort of tree-climbing big cat… probably a jaguar. Silent, observing all the people below, waiting for the right opportunity to strike and make her presence known. Not as cool as your hobo spider, perhaps, but better suited to my part of the world (I spent most of my childhood in a tree, and actually had my first kiss 30 feet up in a Douglas Fir).

  4. mig

    Could also be a squirrel, Meagan. Would fit the description, at least. I’m just saying.

  5. Nah, squirrels are just far too cute and fluffy to be my spirit guide. There’s nothing cute or fluffy about me. Also they end up as roadkill a frightening amount of the time, at least around here. Not a great role model to follow.

    Gray squirrels or brown makes no difference… all will eventually face The Tire. Only the swift will survive.

    On a more spidery note, I had an encounter with a spider that I thought was a mouse while I still had my glasses off. I mean, it was certainly large enough, and I heard little clicky toenails on the linoleum. Turned out to just be clicky exoskeleton on linoleum. I hope that wasn’t your spirit guide, because I hosed him down with Windex (it was the only chemical I had right at hand, okay?).