This is actually useful, if you’re in a relationship. You should read this.
“Geo” is a German-language nature and science magazine I buy sometimes and leave lying around so Beta, who reads anything you leave lying around, learns cool stuff.
- Miguel: Did you read the article about love and relationships?
Beta: Actually I was reading the one about pygmies.
The love article was interesting. One fact I still remember is what they called “The Gottman Constant”. John Gottman is a University of Washington psychologist who said more or less that, when you say something nasty that pisses off or hurts your partner to balance things back out you don’t have to say one nice thing of equal strength, you have to say five nice things. This is because of the way we subjectively perceive slights and compliments. The exact number varies from person to person, but it’s *never* 1:1.
I tried it on Gamma after accidentally making her mad by telling her “no”, and 1:5 was about right.
Does this work for you?
someone should tell this to the jerk i live with. it would probably not enlighten his jerky ass, but hey, it’s a nice thought.
So is that five or ten nice things kd now has to say? Do the two instances of “jerk” count as one slight?
No, each instance of “jerk” is counted separately. That will cost kd five nice things and a hula dance.
Great bloggage AND hula girls! What more could a guy want?
Wait wait wait wait wait.
So, if it’s five nice things and a hula dance, does that mean that I have to wait until there are more houses free before I can sell my hotels? Because I really hate that rule, and frankly, it’s counter-intuitive.
And why aren’t we using Free Parking again?
If you’re not gonna buy that, Pat, can you auction it off please?