So, those of you with kids: how’s the parenting working out?
A Huffington Post article a friend (Zeynep) linked on facebook a while ago got me thinking about parenting.
Also someone was asking for tips on metafilter.com.
As if there were such a thing.
I have no parenting advice to give. I am a terrible parent. My kids are wonderful people despite my best efforts.
You try real hard, to do what is good and avoid doing what is not good, and it turns out by trying so hard to do what is good you end up doing something different that is bad that you didn’t see coming.
The HP article linked above got me thinking about hurrying my kids, though, which I really wish I had done less of. I wish I had not done it at all.
I was this guy, with two jobs, and when Beta was little I had to get her to day care, get my father-in-law to work, then get to my own job, all on time. So I was always in a hurry and got in the habit of telling Beta to hurry up. We later moved and got different jobs and she could walk to school, but the habit stuck. The habit of being overwhelmed by external circumstances, I guess.
I wish I had just said, fuck you, external circumstances. I wish a lot of things. But I wish I had not hurried my kids, or my wife, or myself.
On the other hand, I have no evidence that I ever did any damage by hurrying people. Still, though.
Ah, who knows?
We have all the time in the world.