If you’re like me, you could use a new relaxation technique about now, so I’ll share something with you I recently discovered all on my own.
This is entirely serious, by the way.
I was at a conference at the UN a while ago and noticed a little weird-looking guy. He had a large, shaved head and a small body packed into a black suit but the most unusual thing about him was his posture: erect but relaxed, devoid of the usual body language. His arms hung at his sides relaxed, but not limp. There was zero aggressiveness or defensiveness about him.
It struck me as the way an enlightened person might stand, wasting no energy but somehow completely there, and I decided to try it.
The next week was the best of my life, in memory at least, as far as relaxation and what that brought goes. By being relaxed when I stood and walked, I quickly moved to a higher level of self-awareness and consciousness.
No fooling.
I think it works like this: by unconsciously using defensive or aggressive postures (shoulders up, arms up, or crossed, or hands in pockets, etc) you are not protecting yourself, only your persona, a persona that is holding you back. Your postures are preventing you from actually being yourself.
YMMV, of course.
I did it while walking today, as well: instead of flying forward, carried forward by momentum, I took each step consciously and individually. It takes a bit of concentration to do this without looking like someone from the Ministry of Funny Walks, but it’s entirely possible.
I concentrated on the smell of the air, on how my feet felt on the pavement (through my shoes), how my body felt and what colors the leaves were. Back at work now, I’m stressed out and distracted again, but for those few minutes I was right there.
Maybe you do this, or something else (what?) already. When did you figure it out? If you try this, let me know if it does you any good.