Comments on: Warming up and coping

By: miguel

miguel — Mon, 08 Jul 2002 12:17:30 +0000

tits and cleavage. i wish you guys would’ve told me that before i went on my diet.

By: mae

mae — Mon, 08 Jul 2002 04:28:11 +0000

Just strap on some fake tits. That will make people either avoid you or give you a topic of conversation. Heh.

By: tasha

tasha — Mon, 08 Jul 2002 02:41:26 +0000

“i work on web sites, mostly using (html, pcp, cint, lisa, kmfdm, insert techie acronym here) and i really think (acronym #1) is superior to (acronym #2 and #3) because … well, oh, you don’t want me to go on about THAT, i know. So what do you do?”

And then they’ll have to agree: Damn right, i don’t want you to go on about that. And they’ll start to blabber.

By: Jessica

Jessica — Mon, 08 Jul 2002 02:39:36 +0000

The simple solution is to drag me along. I tend to tote an endless supply of charisma and decoletage – and volumes of inoffensive cocktail chatter for when the political chitchat heats up. Want to know about the logic behind weather patterns? Primate elbow evolution? I’m ready.
I’ve even learned to pause to let my companions have a go, once I’ve given adequate demonstration. ;)

By: mig

mig — Sun, 07 Jul 2002 20:33:16 +0000

oh, and the “famous” thing was her phrase, not mine, she was just slagging me.

By: pat

pat — Sun, 07 Jul 2002 12:12:14 +0000

The foreign language situation is always a great boon to me and my generally inept socialness — if I can’t think of anything good to say, I can always blame it on not knowing *how* to say it.

Thus, I am much more socially confident in places where I don’t speak a word of the lingo.

If I’m in an English-speaking situation and I get nervous, I sneak out the back, and run run run.

By: Bill

Bill — Sun, 07 Jul 2002 05:11:58 +0000

I’m the opposite – I’m great at charming the pants off strangers at first meeting, but I haven’t got the stamina to keep it up for an entire evening, and I’m usually exhausted the next day. It’s a lot of work…

By: miss b

miss b — Sun, 07 Jul 2002 04:09:01 +0000

“fairly famous”?

By: mig

mig — Sun, 07 Jul 2002 00:41:13 +0000

You’re smart, Francis. I’m gonna try that.

By: francis s.

francis s. — Sat, 06 Jul 2002 21:59:16 +0000

Uh, I guess I’m the exception in this group. Sometimes I hang back a bit, and the whole Swedish language thing still has me flummoxed, but when it’s in English I usually do fine, I’m Mr. Friendly Guy. I’d say the key is not having answers, but rather having questions to ask other people before they can ask you anything, Mig. An awful lot of people like to talk about themselves.

By: sue

sue — Sat, 06 Jul 2002 16:38:11 +0000

I’m not much on the big group things either. I tend to just sit quietly, off to the side, and observe. And, for the most part, speak when spoken to. Come to think of it, by the end of the event someone has usually gotten curious about me and then I become part of the big group. When I’m around people I already know, that’s a different story.

By: michele

michele — Sat, 06 Jul 2002 14:59:07 +0000

I fear social situations where I have to meet new people or be part of a large crowd.

My coping strategy? Come up with some medical infliction at the last moment in order to avoid the gathering all together.

By: Chris

Chris — Sat, 06 Jul 2002 13:17:14 +0000

I think I’m worse- I would probably be hanging in the back with you guys. I’ve been known to avoid the annoying spotlight of social comparison by simply telling a group of hyper-inquisitive stangers that I work in a gas station.